The other day on Facebook one of my ‘friends’ put something about their little girl in their status and at the end inserted the words “that little Bitch!” Some people commented, with their LOLs and praising the little girl for being a ‘b-tch’ to her mum. This little girl is not even 6 years old and now all her mum’s friends know she’s a b-tch! This is a mum who posts many photos of her ‘angel’ all over Facebook and statuses that claim they are very close and that the little girl is her world (and rock!).
But it’s was not the first time I’d witnessed a mum calling her tiny child a b-tch. As example… I know a man and his wife who use the words ‘C-nt’ and ‘b-tch’ whenever they yell at their toddlers and teenagers. At the shops at times I hear mums asking their girls to “Stop being a b-tch.” At other times, I’ve heard dads call their daughters “You little b-tch!” when they’re chasing them around playfully. Now, looking at these kids’ age, do they even know what a b-tch is? Those that do at times cry because they don’t like being called the name.
Even grown women use the word b-tch jokingly or in rage when talking to other grown women. I hate it when someone says it to me when they respond to a cheeky comment I’ve made. I respond with “Hey!” and a straight face to show them that I’m not liking this. They get the idea and shake it off.
So what is a b-tch? I looked this up… This is what the internet spat out at me:
Source: Dictionary.com
Ok, so is the child or woman from the said animal group above? No? So why call them a b-tch? Why call them such a hateful name? How would the mother feel if the child said this to them?
“Mum, you’re such a b-tch!”
They wouldn’t like it and they would feel disrespected. Your child is calling you degrading names. That’s a big no-no, right? Right.
Name calling. Some people would say it’s innocent reflex when your child has pushed your button. But how come I, Rhonda, have never called any of the little girls or women I know the B or C words? Even when they pissed me off.
As a mother with a son with autism, labelling will probably become an issue later in life when kids and adults start calling him names because he has autism or because he’s ‘different’. I have read how this upsets many parents and I’m telling you, I won’t enjoy it when it’s my turn to face the name callings.
But calling a child b-tch and c-nt? Why? Why? Is it necessary?
Do people use labels that upset you?
Am I taking this too seriously? What are your views?
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I’m with you on this one. I really hate it when people speak about their kids as a “little turd/shit”
I can sympathise 100% with this post.
My younger brother has autism and I would often find my mother, referring to him as “A little Sh*t”, or a “F***ing idiot”. Because I was that much older, I was incredibly uncomfortable with how she spoke to him and more often than not, this verbal behaviour and name calling, would often coincide with her taking out her frustrations or impatience on him for taking so long to do something, or doing a task wrong.
Now that I have three little ones of my own, I couldn’t imagine speaking to them in such a derogatory way. Yes, we all get frustrated sometimes with our children’s behaviour, however acting out is how they communicate their own frustrations and emotions.
I think that name calling just shows a lack of patience and respect for the child and it could be potentially damaging, especially when that child begins to understand what that word means.
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That’s sad, Stacey. Thanks for sharing. And I totally agree that as a parent I’d do the same as you. I would protect mine.
I have said on a number of occasions: “Bitch” is not interchangeable with “woman”. If someone uses that word to describe me, they are insulting me, in spite of what American black rapper songs might suggest…
For children? Definitely not.
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Agreed! It’s like it’s all becoming ‘normal’ to insult!